Bingos & Dating While Childfree
And does he have a DND podcast?
While recording our episode,
and I had a quick discussion about her experience as a childfree woman from Venezuela.And then the conversation took a turn toward podcast bros.
Enjoy this behind-the-scenes video, or read through the transcript below:
Transcript:
Paulette: So let me ask you a couple last questions about being childfree, that actually we might save this for the Super Cheveritas that's over on Substack. Did your parents give you any pushback? Have you received any kind of familial bingo-ing?
Mafe: My parents, no. It was more so a couple of my aunts that were like, what do you mean you're not gonna have kids? I'm like, I am not, but. No buts, like, I don't want to. And it's like, but they're like, it's so happy in the amount of love and this and that. And I'm like, I don't care. That is not something that interests me.
And I'm like, well, what about like our grandchildren? And I'm like, I don't care. You get Abby. That's who you get.
Paulette: So that's interesting that your parents didn't have a problem with it, but extended family felt like it was their business.
Mafe: And like friends of my fam, like family friends as well, they were like, when are you gonna have kids? Especially when I was with my ex for so long. They were like, when are you gonna get married and have kids? And I was like, never
Married. Maybe kids. Probably never.
Paulette: Here's something interesting that came out of a conversation I had with Angela Briones, who is part of our little Latinas In Podcasting community as well. What if you found someone, a partner, a potential partner, but they had children? Would that be something that you'd be open to?
Mafe: Oh yeah, a hundred percent. I don't mind other people's children, when I know them, like, that's fine. I, again, like I love my friends, uh, children. I absolutely adore them. As I said, I am their godmother. And I actually had to navigate a situation like this recently because there was a guy I matched with him on the dating app.
Everything was going great, whatever. He's like, I have a kid, and I'm like, cool, whatever. It's like, oh, he's three years old. And I'm like, okay, maybe a little bit of a red flag. And then he's like, yeah, I just got out of this situation like three months ago. Oh, full on red flag.
Paulette: Yeah, yeah, yeah. They're not ready.
Mafe: And I was like, so how do you know that you are 100% ready to do this? And he was like, well, just because I know. I'm like, okay, sure. Whatever. I am just gonna go out with you because maybe I need more context. Maybe it was an accident. Maybe they're not together.
And I'm like, okay, I'm gonna go out with you. I'm gonna give you the opportunity just because I need more context and because I'm really enjoying this connection with you. So we go out. And I just keep asking questions about like, his life. Because again dating slash networking, I wanna ask questions because I wanna know what your intentions are, and if you don't give me answers, then what are we doing?
You know? So I like, I keep asking questions, I keep asking questions, and he's like, yeah, I'm 100% ready. This is what I want, whatever. And I'm like, okay, cool. Like, I will see you another day. The weekend passes. It was his birthday on Sunday, so I sent him a message like, oh, happy birthday, whatever. He's like, oh, thank you so much, ghosted me.
And I'm like, okay. I knew this wasn't gonna go anywhere. And then on Monday, he sends me a message me like you were right. I don't think I am ready for this. And I'm like, one, I am always right. And two, I knew it but self-awareness is, is important.
But thank and thank you for being honest. You know?
Paulette: Props to him. He tried.
Mafe: Mm-hmm.
Paulette: Hopefully the next person is a little better prepared for that.
Mafe: Yeah.
Paulette: Wow. Dating's such a pain in the ass.
Mafe: It is. For me again, like now that I have lifted the weight of like the tool of the dating app, I'm now like, okay, like I met this person, it didn't work out. Now we move on. It still hurts. It sucks 'cause you've invested like this amount of time on this person. Even though it's not a lot.
Like we probably talk for like two or three days, but still like it's time that you're investing into someone, into getting to know someone doesn't work. It sucks. It hurts, but then someone better is gonna come along. You know? It's always this and or something better.
Paulette: Maybe he wants to start a podcast.
Mafe: Maybe. Maybe I'm gonna be like, maybe didn't work out, but do you wanna start podcast about Dungeons and Dragons?
Paulette: Oh man. Was he into Dungeons and Dragons? Are you?
Mafe: No, I'm not.
Paulette: Oh my God. I'm gonna my, I love that. Oh my God, that
Mafe: Oh no, ho. Hold on. So talking about this, Dungeons and Dragons, uh, there was also a guy, this, this guy has a podcast! Another guy, completely different guy.
Okay, so matched with this other guy. And the reason why I matched with this guy was because on his bio he said he produced a podcast. And I'm like, yes. Again, love or clients. That's the goal.
Paulette: How did it go?
Mafe: No, I, I like, I didn't meet him or anything. We kind of just like ghosted. But he, again, like he was an interesting person to talk to.
And I am spending the time of getting to know this person because I think he's interesting. Probably it's not gonna go anywhere romantically, but I wanna get to know more about your podcast.
Paulette: Seriously? I mean, at this point you really need to network
Mafe: And the podcast was about Dun Dungeons and Dragons.
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